A FRIENDSgiving Realization

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A FRIENDSgiving Realization

Thanksgiving always reminds me of the show Friends. I mean, who doesn’t know the famous turkey head scene? As much as I love all of the characters in this show, I have a special place in my heart for Rachel. If you don’t know (you should), Rachel is the one that runs away from her lavish lifestyle and rich family to try to make it on her own in the big city. The girl goes through it all from career changes to failed relationships. After years of watching the show over and over and over again I came to the conclusion that I am Rachel....minus the rich family and lavish lifestyle. In the spirit of the holidays and the most amazing show on earth, I am feeling more giving and thankful than ever. I’m thankful for all of my past experiences and because of that I am gifting you with a list of the guys you should probably (definitely) run away from:

1. The one that introduces you as his friend

This guy might as well have a sign taped to his forehead that reads “Mixed Signals.” You’ve been seeing each other for a few weeks, you have discussed the nature of the relationship with each other and when you arrive anywhere and you meet his friends he quickly introduces you as “My friend,” without giving you the chance to introduce yourself as * your name. * Girl, run! Unless you have a thing for being in a confused state then stay because all that’s going to happen from that moment on is going to be confusing. The relationship most likely won’t work once you get fed up with the excuses and mixed signals. A guy like this is confused on what it is that he wants but is unable to let you go because he knows he’d be missing out on a great thing. This is when you prioritize what you deserve and just like Rachel did on the very first episode of friends when she ran out of her wedding, you need to run out of whatever crappy bar you are in and never talk to this guy again.

2. The one that “only has time for his art”

This one starts off as intriguing. The mystery can really make the start of this relationship a dreamy one. You admire the fact that this guy is so into his art he almost only has time for it. That is until you realize that he has time for everything else and the art thing is just an excuse for him to put minimal effort into a romantic relationship * Rachel gasp. * The real ironic thing about this one is that once you find the time to really think about what happened, you realize you aren’t at all surprised it turned out the way it did.

3. The one that’s too into himself

Do I really have to explain this one?

Let’s just say the relationship is D.O.A.

4. The one you can’t hold a conversation with

I am all for finding a person that you can sit in silence with and actually enjoy it. It’s kind of one of my requirements BUT there is a big difference in finding that person and dating someone that you are unable to hold a conversation with. Is it because you don’t have the same interests? Perhaps the person doesn’t care about what you’re into and vice versa? Regardless, this is a recipe for a big waste of time. If you aren’t enjoying someone’s company, it is best you use the time to spend it on your own. After all, it is better to be alone than in poor company.

5. The one that wants to rush everything

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If there is anything worse than a man that is unable to make the next move, it is a man that wants to make all of the moves at once. This is the one that you meet and hit it off with and next thing you know you are meeting his parents. At first, it seems like the perfect love story, you even start to believe in love at first sight without even considering that even if you did fall in love upon your eyes meeting the rest of the relationship cannot advance to deeper levels in one week, not even two weeks. Yes, this may possible, but the chances aren’t very likely. When you meet this guy, you have to be able to answer questions such as “Why is he in a rush?” and “Is this really what I want?” honestly and make sure you truly accept the answers otherwise, run. Or walk. Whatever you do, please make sure you don’t stay just because you feel as if you have already committed to it.

And there you have it, my personal list of guys that I have ran away from (that I know Rachel would’ve ran away from too). As always, I only aim to use my personal experiences to guide and help anyone that needs it. Everyone is different. One guy may be like one of the ones I described above and he may still be a decent person but these are still red flags to look out for when you put yourself out there in the scary world of modern dating. The most important thing to remember, is something that my all-time favorite show mentioned throughout also teaches us: no matter how many times you fail at relationships ALWAYS continue to put yourself out there. In the end, you will have gained something great whether it is an amazing partner or a ridiculous amount of self-discovery and self-love. It will be worth it.

*Insert Friend’s theme song’s clap here*

Until the Next Late Night,

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